I came across a study that was recently reported in Nice News that found forgiving someone who has hurt you actually benefits you as well as the person you’re forgiving. The study found that. “the habit of forgiving was most consistently linked to better psychological and social well-being, including higher optimism, a stronger sense of life purpose, and greater relationship satisfaction. Those who forgave more readily also tended to feel more grateful and more motivated to promote good in the world.” As a rule, people who don’t forgive wind up carrying a heavy load of resentment. The problem with resentment is that it consumes us from the inside, and it makes us miserable. What I found many years ago from personal experience is that resentment won’t change the past, but it can make the present miserable, and the present is all we have.
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